This leads to the formation of low self-esteem and, consequently, to a low level of claims, withdrawal from social activity, a habit to be in a situation of failure. In other words, the child would experience the joy of discovery, but received negative emotions. The child seems to be saying to himself: "Next time I will not climb and help. Again, be denounced. " He puts the pen and quiet. This behavior can parents, in turn, may regarded as very positive, for example, as a sign of good behavior. If a passive, inactive position the child earns praise, then this behavior quickly entrenched.
The child may be in some kind of security under control, and it was good. But the really bad thing is that a child growing up will subconsciously avoid anything that is outside of the cocoon, at risk and unpredictability. A foreign area and are just all the pleasures of life. It's love, acceptance, friendship, personal and professional growth, material well-being and all that gives meaning of human life. But to achieve this total, to disregard the cocoon and jump into the abyss of the dangers inherent in the external environment. Despite all the difficulties, but rather because of them, develop educational, research, creativity, children, and all this! Yet the illusion of internal security and stability would not let many people outside of the shell cocoon. Yes, out there, they like something and they want it, but uncertainty still scary. And parents are Hamlet's choice: "Put up better with a familiar evil hour, eating a strange flight to seek!" So the problem is formulated.
We proceed to answer the question: "What?" But rather "How do" to avoid such deplorable In order to deploy this strategy, it is necessary to act in three ways: 1. Preventive. 2. The development of an understanding with the child.