There are many different ways to parent. A nice way for the family. If you are just parents, consider yourself lucky. These parents trust their children to allow them to live their own life. Such Parents often look younger than their age and are interested in hobbies youth. These parents are good that at least does not prevent to develop their children do not fit into their personal lives, leave enough room for freedom and development. This deprived and deeply unhappy people who can not and can not love. Under most conditions Jack Fusco would agree.
For them, the children – it is no more than the age-old problem. They will never embrace, do not kiss, do not tell their children to tender words. They often can be heard: “What we gave birth to you. You spoiled us for life (a). ” Children from such families 2 versions of the future.
They also do not show any life and feelings of suffering that they and their entourage. Or child firm decides for himself that he is all different. Often, children from such families in the future are very loving and caring parents. I probably the best option, parents – teachers. These parents are really engaged in their children. They do not just give them to kindergarten, then school, college. And then throw his hands in disbelief as to why, they say we have no understanding of children. Parents – teachers are genuinely interested their children, communicate with them, approve of any of their choices, by helping to make the right decision. Such parents are a child watching the interests of their children and help them at an early age found his calling. Such parents never tell their child: go to work or study here, because I was young like that, and now you will realize my dreams. These parents will never be manipulated by their children, forcing them to do what the parents see fit.
Let's look at common mistakes that often make loving parents. Error One. Quite often, a child becomes a favorite target for zadarivaniya from parents and relatives. The child acquires a bunch of all kinds of rattles, soft toys. Huge hairy soft toys, which is why it is so fond of giving children okromya perfect uselessness, are a dangerous lesbian. From growing up toy does not flow decreases, on the contrary, the child becomes nowhere to step over toys, through which long ago lost any part of the designers are a puzzle, "Guess whose piece," or placed in drawers, in which sometimes wiped the dust.
Error Two. All the best – to children! Great slogan. But it has a catch – is not always the best idea for us and our children converge. Are you convinced that this educational game is better than a plane, which asks the son of long, but instead of dolls, near which is a daughter for so long, you need to buy a set for creativity? If yes, then act accordingly, but later do not blame the child with ingratitude, and should not be surprised that such a gift was casually taken and hidden away. On the other hand, do not go on about the child, hysterically demanding tenth typewriter or a doll. Encourage your child to the fact that shopping trip destkih toys do not always have to accompanied by a purchase.
Error Three. "She does not like to play with toys" – say the parents. And indeed, a tot lot of toys, but there is no interest to them. Why does this happen? So you just started or you taught this? That play, too, need to be taught. The kid himself would not put puzzles, build houses or blocks of the design – it all this have to teach parents. Imitation – a core skill, which is owned everything kids.
This leads to the formation of low self-esteem and, consequently, to a low level of claims, withdrawal from social activity, a habit to be in a situation of failure. In other words, the child would experience the joy of discovery, but received negative emotions. The child seems to be saying to himself: "Next time I will not climb and help. Again, be denounced. " He puts the pen and quiet. This behavior can parents, in turn, may regarded as very positive, for example, as a sign of good behavior. If a passive, inactive position the child earns praise, then this behavior quickly entrenched.
The child may be in some kind of security under control, and it was good. But the really bad thing is that a child growing up will subconsciously avoid anything that is outside of the cocoon, at risk and unpredictability. A foreign area and are just all the pleasures of life. It's love, acceptance, friendship, personal and professional growth, material well-being and all that gives meaning of human life. But to achieve this total, to disregard the cocoon and jump into the abyss of the dangers inherent in the external environment. Despite all the difficulties, but rather because of them, develop educational, research, creativity, children, and all this! Yet the illusion of internal security and stability would not let many people outside of the shell cocoon. Yes, out there, they like something and they want it, but uncertainty still scary. And parents are Hamlet's choice: "Put up better with a familiar evil hour, eating a strange flight to seek!" So the problem is formulated.
We proceed to answer the question: "What?" But rather "How do" to avoid such deplorable In order to deploy this strategy, it is necessary to act in three ways: 1. Preventive. 2. The development of an understanding with the child.